What is the fundamental truth of being a human?

We are born……………..we learn how to survive…………………then we die.

Does it really matter how right you are?

Does it really matter whether you do a job perfectly?

Does it really matter if others like you?

Does it really matter if you try hard to avoid conflict?

We got trapped in the beliefs and conditioning that we took on board when we were young. And we needed those strategies in order to survive. We needed to fit in with our family and friends. To survive. To live. And it’s natural because we are designed to survive. All parts of us want to survive. Our ego fixation falls into place in the first couple of years and remains fixated, just to keep us surviving.

So those questions above are from the strategies that you developed.

You might want to be right because you fear the consequences of making a mistake. That was me! You might want to be right because you’ll be judged negatively if you were not right. That was me. You might want to be right because that gives you control – you might feel angry if you don’t get it right and it’s wrong to feel angry!

You may have learned that you need to get every little task perfect. That you need to strive for perfection. That you need to make every effort to get it perfect. That you need to work hard and deny yourself any pleasure. No matter how stressful. And only then will it be acceptable. Probably to someone significant in your life when you were young but now it’s you putting the pressure on.

We all want some sort of validation from others, but how far do you take this. How much does it matter? Do you notice that you are very helpful – that as soon as you are aware that someone needs something, even if it is your own idea of their need, that you step in, change your plans and do it. Do you use your dressing style to fit in with people whom you want to like you? Do you agree with their every comment? Do you take on board their ideas and make them yours?

And what about conflict and disagreements? Did you learn to avoid these when young, to stay out of trouble, to be good? Much more peaceful, isn’t it? But notice how it restricts your life these days, if you are always on alert for possible conflict in the smallest conversations.


It’s easy to say: Just do what you love. But usually there is stuff in the way.

It’s possible to expand your consciousness and learn what does matter at the deepest level.
And to gently get to the subconscious and loosen those egoic patterns.