Mindful Blog

Unable to control life: the boom box story

No control over your life.Isn't it just plain awful, plain horrible, when something is happening in your life that makes you feel very uncomfortable and you can't get away from it? Feels like you have no control over your life. At all. What are you supposed to do?And...

It can be panicky to not know the future

It can be panicky to not know what's in the future. There is something about knowing that gives a space to relax and feel secure. What is that really? Why do we like to know?Sometimes, even if it's bad stuff, it's better to know that not know. Then planning can...

Blame

Recently I saw the movie “Penguin Bloom”. Maybe you have seen it. Maybe you also had tears running down your cheeks.One of the children blames himself for his mum becoming a paraplegic. And the film shows how he then interprets the way his mother looks at him, the...

Judgement.

After you have had an important conversation, do you go over it later? Do you remember the words you have used, and replay it, analysing and judging them? I used to do this everyday. I did not remember what the other person said necessarily, but I remembered what I...

Feelings Are Annoying

Feelings are annoying. Well, some of them are. It would be nice to feel happy all the time. Isn’t that what we really want? It’s so painful when hurt feelings arise. It’s so painful when sadness arises. It’s so painful when anger arises. What do we do with this...

Doubt.

It’s a bit like spam in your brain. Tries to entice you to move away from your purpose. Away from the truth. Away from stillness and silence. Doubt is thoughts that question and analyse and compare and judge. And these skills on their own or together, are useful at...