Grief, Loss and Life Transitions
Grief expresses itself in a myriad of ways. Different emotions that you would not have considered to be part of grief will arise, usually at unexpected times.
There can be a wide range of triggers, such as music, someone’s voice, someone’s way of walking, an image, even body work (massage) because we store emotions in our body.
Any type of loss or transition in life can trigger grief
Even those changes that we planned and wanted.
Shifting house, separation and divorce, a new relationship, leaving a job, children leaving home, a pet dying, an illness, loss of independence.
In a session, I cannot make you feel an emotion, but when there is time allocated to being truly heard, then what needs to come up, will come up. In a session with me, this will be a safe place for you to “fall apart” if that is what is needed. And I have no judgement on whether or not emotions are felt.
What is often found, is that there are layers of grief and layers of emotions stored in the body. The mind may have tried to do away with them. This is a common strategy, simply and understandably because they are uncomfortable and you don’t wish to seen as vulnerable.
I will listen deeply to whatever you need to explain about the grief and you can be truly heard. The combination of being truly heard and allowing emotions can be very effective in giving relief. And then you can be at peace with yourself.
Dying and Death
As humans we fear death. Because no matter what you believe or how strong your beliefs are, we don’t know what happens at death, nor do we know what comes after. It is this not knowing that generates fear. Some of us are more prone to fear the unknown than others and it shows in your life.
Dying is huge fear, as is what comes before the dying – fear of letting people take care of you, fear of loss of independence, fear of being vulnerable, fear of being exposed, fear of being out of control.
Come and talk about it in a safe compassionate place.
If you want help to complete an Advanced Care Plan, do ask. I have done training in this, can provide the booklet for you and give you support to write it. I can visit you in your home or you can come to my place. Cost $100 for an hour and half plus follow-up. The ACP is a legal document, signed by your doctor, which has your wishes written into it.
It is especially useful for a situation where an event happened which has left you unable to communicate. It has details such as when you want to be resuscitated and your wishes about prolonging your life. Having a plan in place can allow you to not worry about that part.
What happens in a session?
1. We begin with what is present
You do not need to arrive with the “right words” or a clear explanation. We begin with what is happening for you right now. Even if it comes out in a jumble. You are welcome just as you are.
2. You are deeply listened to
There is space, safety and support for you to speak honestly, feel what is there and be met without judgement. I will have a quiet mind and an open, compassionate heart. I will not have a personal agenda or be trying to get anywhere in particular.
3. We explore the patterns underneath
Together, we may gently look at beliefs, emotions, body sensations, memories and subconscious patterns that are influencing your current experience.
4. Hypnotherapy or guided inner work may be used
Where appropriate and with your permission, I may use hypnotherapy, guided relaxation and inner inquiry to support deeper awareness and change.
5. You leave feeling relaxed, at peace and with more clarity
The aim is for you to become more aware of how you function as a human, for you to know that you are not those surface patterns and the experience the truth of your essence.
Session options
Individual Session
Length: 60 minutes
Cost: $115 single session
$105 each if choosing ongoing sessions
$300 prepay for 3 sessions
Discount are available for financial hardship
Supervision / Mentoring Session
Length: 60 minutes
Cost: $115 single session
$105 each if choosing ongoing sessions
$300 prepay for 3 sessions
In person sessions are available on the Kāpiti Coast. | Online sessions are available via Google Meet across New Zealand and anywhere in the world.
Why work with Annette?
I bring together counselling, hypnotherapy, psychotherapy training, NLP, meditation, mindfulness and years of personal and professional inner work.
My work is especially suited to people who want to feel deeply heard, gently supported and guided back toward themselves.
- Qualified counsellor and hypnotherapy practitioner
- Advanced clinical hypnotherapy training
- Psychotherapy-informed background
- Trauma informed.
- Experienced in emotional healing and inner change
- Warm, non-judgemental and deeply intuitive approach
- In-person and online support available
"It is a small step but a big step in the scheme all of the things "
"I am amazed how I feel in such a short time. It is a small step but a big step in the scheme all of the things I haven’t dealt with. Sleeping through the night. Far more calmer at work, not as anxious, if I make a mistake it can always be fixed instead of blowing it way out of proportion. Speaking up to my boss about work conditions
Annette these are big examples going forward for me. There’s is more. Bring on the next session, Thank you"
- Joan after one session
Frequently Asked Questions
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What is the difference between counselling and hypnotherapy?
Counselling gives you a safe space to talk, reflect and be heard.
Hypnotherapy works more directly with subconscious beliefs, patterns and emotional responses.
Do I need to know what is wrong before I book?
No. You can arrive exactly as you are. Many people simply know they feel stuck, anxious, disconnected or ready for something to change.
Are sessions available online?
Yes.
Sessions are available online through Google Meet, so you can work with me from anywhere in NZ, Aotearoa or the world.
Online sessions can still be personal, gentle and deeply supportive.
Where are in-person sessions held?
In-person sessions take place in my home in Paraparaumu, on the Kāpiti Coast.
How many sessions will I need?
This depends on what you are bringing and what kind of support you are looking for. Some people come for a few sessions, while others prefer ongoing support.
Is hypnotherapy safe?
Hypnotherapy is a gentle, guided process. You remain aware and in control throughout the session. I will ask your permission first and we can stop at any time.
What if I feel nervous about booking?
That is very normal. If it would be helpful, I can send you some photos of my home. You can also get to know me and how I work by watching videos on my YouTube channel. https://www.youtube.com/annettecburrell
Ready to begin?
You do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out. If something here resonates with you, you are welcome to book a session with Annette.
A first step can be simple. You can just say, “I’d like to talk.”