Setting boundaries is not about sitting down and writing down what you won’t do and will do. Too complicated! Boundaries can happen naturally when you are sure of yourself and know your true self. They can develop over time as you become more aware of what you truly want.

But first lets investigate the subconscious patterns that are leading you to walk on eggshells around some people – those in authority or men or loved ones? Lets inquire into how it all started. Because it was a way to survive when you needed to survive and weren’t able to on your own. It was the only way to cope and to have some semblance of approval and love. It served you well when young but unfortunately the pattern got suck and well practised and reinforced and embedded deeper.

Lets do something about this – if you truly want to be finished with the pattern.

We are human and therefore have emotions, probably many times a day. So that’s a whole lot of emotions in a growing up and adult life.

Lets peel them off so you can learn to let yourself feel them with acceptance and no fear of them making you fall apart or explode.
And life can open up for you, it can expand and motivation can be given a boost as you become aware of being lighter.

Medication is often offered if you see your Doctor. It can be useful in the short term and enable you to start therapy.

Stored in the body as energy and arising at most inopportune moments when a trigger reminds you of a past situation. Which is good, except when it affects your relationship with whoever is in front of you.

The real way to deal with emotions is to feel them in your body, whenever they become apparent. Not think about them – thinking about them takes you into your head and away from the emotion.

Where you do feel the emotion most strongly? And what is it like in there? Acknowledge it, feel it and it will dissolve. Until next time or the next layer. We are human – we have emotions, they come and go. Allow them.

In some mysterious way, you can be guided to the painful area of your body, and inquire into what is stuck there. It could be an emotion, an old memory, a belief about yourself that is causing that part of your body to scream at you.

Your body has the natural and amazing ability to heal. It’s what the system is designed to do. You will have noticed that a minor hurt like a cut, heals whether or not you put ointment on it. It’s what your body does. Your body can heal other conditions too, when we provide the right conditions. We can talk about these conditions. And you can learn to listen to your body.

We explore the emotional pain with love and compassion, as uncomfortable as that might be, so that you can be free of it.

And now you carry this on, replaying conversations to look for how you could improve or preparing conversations in your head before they happen so you can be better than previously. Either way, it is tiring. Its an effort.

How would it be to let your true self yourself and life unfold naturally? To know that you are worthy and that even judging something you did as a failure, is only your perception and not the truth.

Old survival patterns and self-beliefs may have helped you survive when little but now it’s time to release them.

With a guided meditation or hypnotherapy you can experience the goodness, safety and love that is deep inside you. And this can be your guide in daily life.