Sometimes circumstances can be wonderful for a while and then over time they feel restricting. It’s interesting how our perception can change.
For example, the partner that I was with a couple of years ago, is someone who loves to do things to help people. This felt wonderful to me….at first and for a while. Over time my perception of this changed and I started to feel restricted. Too much helping me, physically and verbally, meant that my personal value felt lessened and life felt restricted. Of course this was entirely my interpretation.
Many things can feel restricting. It does depend on how we see things. And maybe if we change how we see things inside ourselves, then it won’t feel restricting.
Lack of money can feel restricting.
Living accommodation can feel restricting.
A job can feel restricting.
A relationship can feel restricting.
Lack of ideas of what to do can feel restricting.
Any circumstances can feel restricting.
It’s not necessarily what the circumstances are. Another person in the same circumstances may feel differently. So what is it really?
Because following on from there, the question is whether we take action about the circumstances. How do we decide whether it’s just our interpretation or whether we need to change the situation? (relationship, job, living place, etc)
How do we get a clear answer from the jumble of thoughts that go back and forth?
If you are feeling confused about your circumstances and whether to take action, that this is a good sign.
You might ask how. It’s because the confusion is a mind condition. Confusion is not an emotion, but…………it means that the mind might be getting near to giving up and realising that figuring out isn’t working. This then allows the emotion to come through and be felt. Why would you want to feel emotion? Because it will be emotion that is the pain of the situation.
So stop and feel. You might feel trapped and under that there could be irritation, frustration, anger, worthlessness. This is no big deal. Just feel whatever is here without getting into thoughts of why. Bring your awareness to the feeling and acknowledge it. Funnily enough it will then dissolve, especially if you stay in the moment.
And in continuing to stay in this moment, the right action will be revealed for you.
Stillness in the moment has all the answers.