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3 Stories – 3 lessons

1. The drink bottle story:Some months ago I was dropped off at the Rydges Gold Coast Hotel and was asked “Have you got everything”. “Yes”, I replied. And then soon […]

Self Worth and Self Criticism

Feelings of unworthiness and not being good enough along with “imposter syndrome” can be debilitating. It is not how you want to live and not how you want to be. […]

Addictions

Addictions of any sort are an escape, a relief from emotional pain. If you don’t drink alcohol, smoke, vape, gamble, shop, hoard, eat too much, what would you have to […]

Physical Pain

Pain in our body is interpreted by our brain. You may have heard of people who have a high pain threshold. Well, it’s about how their brain processes it and […]

Trauma responses

There is much information about responses that are born out of trauma. Trauma can be a sudden traumatic event, an ongoing trauma event or even just old conditioning that created […]

A Radical way to Freedom

A radical way to freedom. Recently I was in Taupō for a Jared Franks retreat. 30 of us met in a lovely big room with a huge logburner keeping us […]

Is your life hard?

Sometimes life just seems hard. It seems so real that it is hard.Why do we think that?Because it’s not easy! Not comfortable? Not going well? Not what we want?We are […]

How do you Project Manage your life?

It does seem to be a human thing to want to control our life, to get what we want, to manifest what we want, to plan our life so that […]

Do you make a difference in the world or would you like to?

If you do, what does this look like? How does it happen? I’d love to hear.Or do you want to make a difference in the world – for people, animals, […]

Integrating Spirituality with Counselling and Hypnotherapy

It’s so natural. Because your spirituality is right here. Your true ‘self” is with you all the time. It’s not something to bring in from outside. It’s not something that […]

Doing less to be healthy in all areas of your life

It is so usual these days to want to improve our physical health or our mental health or our spiritual health by doing more when actually, maybe we need to […]

New Year, thinking and my trip to a fasting retreat.

We start a new year.Maybe you have made some new years resolutions, maybe not – either way is fine.And really the days pass and the years pass. We don’t have […]

Fundamentally – what matters to you in life?

What is the fundamental truth of being a human? We are born.................we learn how to survive.....................then we die. Does it really matter how right you are? Does it really matter […]

Living Well

I admire my big brother.He died well.He had thought it all through in detail. Not that he talked to me about it.I don’t even know if he talked about it […]

Do you Hypnothise yourself?

You probably do. Without even realising. You are in a relaxed state and you are telling yourself that you are useless, you are worthless and not good enough. Your unconscious […]

What is Really Real?

In the day to day happenings, it is real that you do your job, look after your family, eat and sleep.In the week to week happenings, it is real that […]

Respect yourself and feel those emotions.

I know I’ve written about emotions before.................. but often people ask me – how to feel emotions. Mainly because they want to learn a way to do away with them! […]

Why would anyone book a session with me?

Are you curious about who comes to see me as a client??Well, 3 types of people come to see me.1. Those that want to fix something about themselves. Usually it’s […]

Dying Matters

Dying Matters includes all the things that people like to organize about dying – funeral options, Burial/cremation, Wills, Power of Attorney, Advanced Care Plans, information to family about insurance and […]

Emotions might cause sickness

Emotions – those feelings!Did you know that emotions are at the core of many diseases? Check out Gabor Matē and Bessel van der Kolk and other well known physicians.And yet, […]

I am not Good Enough

I am not good enough.I know you have this in you somewhere. I do too.Ancient world philosophies mention it as being basic to all humans.How much you notice will depend […]

Conflict

Conflict – so loosely talked about, covering a wide range of interactions. From a mild disagreement to a heightened, escalating, high emotional panicky situation. And all inbetween.I have recently had […]

How do you live your life?

Life can be so good when..................💖 You don't take someone's comments personally💖 You don't take circumstances personally💖 You don't make that situation mean anything about you💖 You stop judging yourself.Life […]

An Injury Story

Yesterday I tripped over. I fell straight down onto my knees. Hard. The first half of the fall, was in slow motion with me not believing at first that I […]

How suggestible are you?

I had a sore knee and had physio for a while. After it was better and not bothering me and I’d forgotten about it – many weeks after, someone asked […]

Leela Therapy

Here I want to explain this work that I do. It’s called Leela Therapy.At a networking meeting I will start by saying that I do Counselling with Hypnotherapy. And this […]

This is not a Christmas Blog

But it is that time of the year.You can be Christmasy if you like. You can get into the whirlwind and the speed and the expectations if you choose. And […]

What do you truly want for yourself?

What is it that you truly want?If you dive into this question, what comes up?Maybe: a house, car, boat, successful career, to be loved, to avoid conflict !!!!!But, what do […]

Mental Health Awareness Week

Mental Health Awareness Week is on.Sometimes I think that mental health needs to actually be emotional health................Does one come before the other? Or are they connected closely. If you inquire […]

The Mind is Unreliable

In our society, we value our brains a lot. So much so, that our heart and body is disregarded. It can be like the body is just there to carry […]

A Talk I gave to a Business Women’s Coffee group about what I do.

Your mind is now full of what others have said and what’s going on for you today, so lets stop for a moment. Let your gaze wander the room and […]

The Chaos of the World

The world is in chaos.Wars and genocide and climate change and poverty and colonisation and abuse and people losing jobs.Government systems not doing what they are supposed to.Out of your […]

A South Island trip on my own

It’s hard to put into words.Something that there are no words for.However, to start at the beginning is usually a useful place to start.I was dreaming of a road trip […]

The past

You can’t change what happened in your past.What happened, happened.BUT you can change how you remember what happened.You can change how you interpret it.You can stop it hurting.You can stop […]

Recipe for an Awesome Life

Ingredients:All hours of the day - appreciate the body and how it worksAll hours of the day – listen to your body and rest if it needs rest.3 meals a […]

What is real?

What is real and what is unreal?I used to say there is nothing more real than birth and death.I stand by that.Giving birth is a miracle, each of my 5 […]

What pulls you away from yourself?

In essence, I experience my true self to be spacious, peaceful nothing. From here I can live life in true freedom. A freedom where I do not take anything personally […]

5 tips for a better life

Everyone wants a better life, don’t they? Self improvement is rife. What about wanting a truer life?1. Listen to your body. What does this mean? I’m sure you think you […]

Want to change your current circumstance?

Want a way out of your current circumstances??When circumstances are uncomfortable, it’s natural to want a way out.Sometimes we want to avoid the whole of it.Sometimes we just want to […]

Coping with Busyness

This morning I sat in the gazebo listening.To the stream behind me trickling, tickling, flowing.To the birds chattering.To the stillness.To the occasional loud voices from an overnight party next door […]

Discover what you truly want.

Money or fulfilment? What do you choose?Seriously, what do you want for your life?I know, your mind thinks, why not both?And yes, why not both?If you have been a client […]

Do you ever stop thinking?

Are you thinking all the time?Stop for a moment and think about it (haha). Do you ever stop thinking?Even when you happen to look at a beautiful flower - do […]

Your heart is calling you home.

Your heart is calling you home.Can you feel it?Maybe the call is strongest when you are on your own walking in the bush? Or along the beach on your own? […]

How’s the conversations in your head?

Conversations in your head??Do you have these?I do.Usually its one side bringing up doubting thoughts about just about anything.And then the other side replies, offering reassurance and calming advice.But I […]

Unspoken messages

The unspoken messages and the emotional climate in your home affected you as a child.Especially if there was a lot of criticism, a lot of judgement and a lack of […]

How to be really happy.

Where is the root of happiness?Have you found it?Pleasure and happiness can be found in many every day happenings.......sitting in the spa pool, having a massage, winning Lotto, getting a […]

Do you want more knowledge?

I'm sure you know lots more than me.I’m sure you have much more knowledge than me.And I do know that keeping up to date with knowledge for your job is […]

Is it Yes or No?

I want to remind you to trust yourself, when making decisions.Often we think we can’t trust ourselves. The mind gets in tangle trying to work out the best thing to […]

Are you missing out?

Are you missing out on happiness and fulfilment?You will be if you are in your head thinking all the time.Do you notice that your thoughts can be swirling and frustration […]

How many thoughts do you think each day?

Want to guess?100? 1,000? 10,000? or more?How about between 12,000 and 80,000. Goodness knows how they counted them. Surely would be harder than counting sheep!This is according to a National […]

How fiercely do you judge yourself?

Can you ever just accept yourself as you are? Or is this too big a thing?What about just accept parts of you?Actually, why not find the parts of you that […]

The Gift of Covid

What, there is a gift?? Really!!The gift, to put in simple terms was in stopping and resting. I don’t know whether you were able to stop and rest. Maybe there […]

What happens when someone says something that hurts you.

It happened to me a while ago. Twice! And what did I do? I froze. It felt like a shock. And I didn't respond how I would have liked to. […]

A lesson on a sacred mountain

Once upon a time, several years ago, I wanted to get to the top of a mountain.It was a sacred mountain in a very hot country. Made sacred because Sri […]

Be good! Behave yourself!

I can remember at 6 years of age, lying in bed at night time, trying very hard to work out how to be good. There I was, at a young […]

We are busy.

We are so busy these days. There is so much to do.So much to think about.So many people in our lives to be aware of.So many decisions to think about.So […]

Silent Sitting

This morning I decided to sit silently with my eyes closed. I decided to just notice what went on in me. I noticed that as my eyes closed, it felt […]

Depression

“Have you ever been depressed?” my doctor asked.“Yes” I answered.“So you know what it feels like” she said. I remember the dullness………………….the robotic functioning……………………..lack of joy………….. the numbness………………………. the hollow […]

Connection and Conversation

Recently I had coffee with someone I haven’t seen for a long time. It soon became very clear to me that I was not enjoying the situation. If I offered […]

What do you want?

What do you want in life?Have you thought about it?It’s not about how you want others to think of you now or when you are gone? Not a eulogy. What […]

Tired of trying?

Are you tired? Are you blaming this on covid? And all the ramifications?Tired of trying? Do you just want to rest? Properly and get some energy back?Tired of effort? Does […]

Is trying successful?

You can’t change your subconscious mind by thinking. We try! Will power is great. Perseverance is great. Wanting is great. Trying is great. Positive thinking is great. But these are […]

Fear. Is it really that bad?

Fear can be positive, yet we want none of it.Fear can protect us, yet we would sooner not have it.Fear can be excitement, yet we view it as negative.Take the […]

Vigilance, Discipline, Responsibility

Vigilance + discipline = responsibility for self. This formula has come up for me recently. Vigilance is not an effortful process but a relaxed being aware of the times you […]

Anxiety

What is it? Do you have it? Ever? Often? All the time? The word is used increasingly these days. It has become a BIG thing. Like Depression, a big thing. […]

Being restricted in life

Restrictions Sometimes circumstances can be wonderful for a while and then over time they feel restricting. It’s interesting how our perception can change.For example, the partner that I was with […]

Happiness

How is your life going? Are you happy?You know, there is a difference between feeling happy and being happy.Feeling happy is that lovely feeling we get at times. Feels light […]

Acceptance of what’s here now.

It’s easy, or relatively easy, to accept life in this moment when things are going okay. When one is feeling happy. When one is not being triggered by lack of […]

“Stay true to yourself and what appears will be beyond belief.”

How are things for you at this time between Christmas and the New Year?Do you have a strong feeling about it being the end of the year? Some people do. […]

I can do this.

How well do you know you? What do you have to know to know yourself? Is it about how good you are at doing things? Or what knowledge you have? […]

How to stop your mind.

Can you feel the stillness inside you?If you stop thinking just for a moment, can you feel the stillness? Maybe you wonder how to stop thinking. Maybe you are trying […]

Caring for yourself.

Caring for yourself.This is not simple. Not as simple as having a massage now and then. Not as simple as having time to read a book. Not as simple as […]

What are your thinking patterns?

What sort of pattern does your thinking take?For me, the first trigger to thinking could be noticing a sound, a word, something visual, a sensation in my body or even […]

Essential questions

Sometimes essential questions arise. What is my purpose? What is life about? These often arise in times of pain or crisis. Life can keep us busy – jobs, family, obligations, […]

Fear can limit one’s life

Did you ever read that book “Feel the fear and do it anyway”? I did. I owned it for years but didn’t reread it. Nice idea. Nice concept but it […]

An adventure into this moment

An adventure into this moment.This moment, not the next and not the last but right here, right now. Not talking about it but being.So if I accept and are willing […]

Unable to control life: the boom box story

No control over your life.Isn't it just plain awful, plain horrible, when something is happening in your life that makes you feel very uncomfortable and you can't get away from […]

It can be panicky to not know the future

It can be panicky to not know what's in the future. There is something about knowing that gives a space to relax and feel secure. What is that really? Why […]

Blame

Recently I saw the movie “Penguin Bloom”. Maybe you have seen it. Maybe you also had tears running down your cheeks.One of the children blames himself for his mum becoming […]

Judgement.

After you have had an important conversation, do you go over it later? Do you remember the words you have used, and replay it, analysing and judging them? I […]

Feelings Are Annoying

Feelings are annoying. Well, some of them are. It would be nice to feel happy all the time. Isn’t that what we really want? It’s so painful when hurt feelings […]

Doubt.

It’s a bit like spam in your brain. Tries to entice you to move away from your purpose. Away from the truth. Away from stillness and silence. Doubt is thoughts […]